Male attraction is treated as if it has Self justifying value. It’s about claiming power, the suicidal urge men have when they see a woman to whom their attraction to means nothing, they are being deprived power. This is a similar feeling, I think, to how a defanged snake must feel.

“Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.” ― Margaret Atwood, quote from The Robber Bride

What the male finds here is a place where his gaze is potentially valuable yet again. The subject is no longer playing the game that he has found unfruitful. I think this is why every female participation in a subculture (goth, skater, clown, etc) is instantly met with fetishization not only from members of the subculture but from the mainstream.

The “man watching inside a woman” she refers to is the epitome of fetishization. As Zizek says “[the fetishization] does not fulfill your desire, but instead tells you what to desire.” Opposition itself is part of the game. You cannot escape it. Even the most absolute rebellion is rebellion of something. Subverting the (a) it is still a practice beholden to the (a). It’s like ignoring the potential gaze inside the panoptigon. A certain amount of yourself is persistent in its view. that part has been stolen.